is desire an unacceptable weapon because so many people refuse to believe desire can be controlled
extremely relevant question.
I want to expand this notion of “control,” though: what does that mean? when I think of “training my dick,” as I read it once described, I think of aversion therapy. that’s terrifying.
I’m absolutely for the rigorous reflection and self-investigation of desire, the kinds of unchecked “preferences” that lead to “no fats no femmes,” a narrowing of desire into something exactly refractory of cultural standards and ideals.
I want my desire to be freeing, spiritually, psychically, emotionally, physically, mentally. I want my desire to be something of which I’m proud.
Is that possible?
This feels like a very scary question to ask, and I’m afraid of the backlash that might arise from my championing desire as a site of change, but I feel very strongly about this. Desire, while not something that can be “controlled,” IS mutable, at least in myself.
I want my desire, like my self, my selves, to be dynamic and fluid, touching down only when it makes sense in service of myself and in service of goodness, closeness, justice, whatever.
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